The Mental Load is Killing Mother’s Mental Health
November 23, 2022The Mental Load Made Me Do It You know the drill, it’s 8:25 a.m. on a seemingly nice and happy Thursday morning, things are hectic as per and one thing too many prompts a snide, passive aggressive or just straight up snarl from yourself that makes the partner ask ‘What’s wrong?’. Instantly that question gets your back-up, no need to tell me why, I get it. I’ve got ‘it’ for years, yet never had a term to put to the ‘it’. The partner, on the other hand, probably don’t get ‘it’. And so the shoulder blades rise as you struggle…
A Comprehensive Guide to Successfully Navigating the Fourth Trimester and Beyond (Guest Post by Ashley McLean)
Most people are familiar with the first three trimesters of pregnancy, but what about the fourth? The fourth trimester is a period often overlooked, yet it is a crucial time for both mother and baby as they…
The ‘Pandemic Prison’ Placed on Mothers
The COVID pandemic is over – well, I’m judging that purely on the opening of nightclubs, pubs and the mask burning ceremonies I’ve seen on social media. The world has opened its doors again. Office blocks are…
The Problem with Personal Boundaries… Is You.
There is a lot of buzz on social media in regard to ‘personal boundaries’. Which, unless you’ve somehow managed to scroll them by quicker than the obscene number of adverts offering a whole host of weird and…
Living With Postpartum Depression – The Book
If we are lucky enough to realise we might be suffering from postpartum depression, one of the first things we may do, is to search online; seeking out a list of symptoms that may aid us in…
Positive Birth Story – Induced Birth After PPD and Birth Trauma.
After the birth of my daughter, I was left with a very bitter, traumatic taste in my mouth about the health care system. It took a long time to even process how I felt about it let…
Grieving the baby I could not love
For 6 months I’ve sat with a feeling I couldn’t place. Most times I would fret my mind was sinking into depression, how could I be incredibly happy, yet have an awful wrench in my stomach. Easy…
We don’t owe the birth of our baby to anyone other than us.
Being a female, there’s an ingrained sense of ‘owing’. We owe it to other people to cover up our bodies, not to make them uncomfortable. Whether that be a big busted lady daring to wear a…
Asking A Couple ‘When’ They Are Having Children Is Rude. Fucking Stop It.
‘How’s the sex life?’ ‘Is your marriage actually committed?’ ‘I hear impotence starts to become a problem at your age, how is that going?’ ‘You’ve only know each other 2 years, is that not too soon for…
Pregnancy after Post Natal Depression
Hesitant to say ‘better’ or ‘healed’, the post natal depression, or depression (at what point do we switch and drop the post natal?) I suffered is very much off the boil, not even on a lower heat…
Parenthood: Once bitten, twice not so fucking shy
Parenthood changes your entire life. Heck, even wanting children changes your life. The journey into parenthood is different for each family, and so, the ride of parenthood is different. Of course, parents share similarities, the overwhelming responsibility,…